For an adult with an absent, weak or impaired mand repertoire thishas major ramifications for close relationships. With a child, when theylearn to express their need for food or drink and that need is met bytheir caretaker, in the same way in close adult relationships theability to assert our needs and ask for what we want is key indeveloping and maintaining a healthy relationship.
For example, say you have had a really bad day at work and you wantyour partner to be home on time so they can support and care for you.For someone with an absent, weak or impaired mand repertoire, they mayfeel unable to expressly ask for their partner to be home on time bysaying for example, ‘please can you be home on time, I’d like yoursupport tonight’, but instead they say nothing and if their partner islate, may exhibit negative behaviours suck as sulking, withdrawing, orscreaming to instead make their point heard.
In this case, a need theyhad has gone unmet, but had they had the appropriate manding skills theycould have asked for what they wanted and had their needs met. Insteadit leads to a relationship malfunction and neither partner feelssatisfied.