Life can be a huge adjustment when children come along, and when a child has developmental disabilities this can place a great strain on a couple and their resources.
Relationships are like a car. They need ongoing maintenance, constant refilling of fuel, oil checks and cleaning. Below are just a few suggestions for maintaining and growing your relationship with your spouse, even when faced with the challenges of life with a special needs child.
- Make sure you have a date night at least once a month where you organise a baby sitter and take yourselves somewhere new.
- Talk to each other. Squeeze in time to listen to each other.
- Talking about the set back, struggles and successes helps you keep knowing each other, and helps you both feel heard.
- Offer encouragement; it’s likely that both of you lead busy and demanding lives either as a full time care giver, or full time worker, or both!. Find moments in the day to offer encouragement to each other through a text, email or phone call.
- Know when to seek outside support. Some mountains are best climbed with a guide. To learn more about counselling sessions specific to parents with children who have special needs please contact us for a chat.