As children move into their teens, peers become more and more important, and it is good for them to spend time with their friends as they grow older and begin to develop independence. No doubt your teen has expectations that you will be a full time taxi service during this break but here are some thoughts on how to settle your own mind as your little ones strive for independence...
- Inviting teens around to the house can be a way for you to get to know their friends a little too you ensure their safety
- Having planned activities with a clear beginning and end, and a clear understanding of where they are going and who they will be with allows you to feel safe whilst they get out and enjoy themselves.
- Having the phone number of their friend’s parents can be an additional reassurance should something come up!
A little secret: Whilst teens push for independence and freedom, and can make you feel as though you are ruining their lives with limits, this is actually the time when they need boundaries and love the most. They are in an insecure world trying to figure out who they are and how they will fit. Whilst it’s good for them to go out and explore this, maintaining structure and boundaries in their lives is the best way of loving them, and whilst maybe they won’t thank you for it right now, they might do some way in the future!