The tact and teens
If tacting has not developed in the early life of a child, then it is inevitable that a teen will have difficulty naming objects and other stimuli.
As with all behaviour though, it is a skill that can be taught.
A teen who is poor at tacting may be able to name a sensation, for example, ‘I feel sick’, however they may not be able to offer further information about how they feel sick. This makes it difficult for the people in their life to understand their experience, which has a major impact on relationships.
The tact and adults
Adults who show poor tacting skills may really struggle at getting by in everyday life. For example, a man goes to the pub to watch the football with his friends. With basic tacting skills, he may be able to comment ‘they are playing football,’ however a skill deficit in tacting may mean that when someone scores a goal, this young man’s limit in tacting skill may mean he can’t talk more indepth about the play, which limits his ability to interact with others at the pub.
We can see once again that when our ability to tact is limited, our ability to communicate with others is also limited.
If you are concerned about the communication skills of a child, teen or adult in your world, try the following assessment:
- How often does the individual comment on things in their environment?
- How often do they draw your attention to things in their environment or show you things of interest?
If they are no doing these things frequently it may be time to speak with a professional.