School has ended, many of our families struggle during this time of year, as they anticipate the transition in to a new school year, where things may be different. The New Year can bring with it the promise of new hopes, new goals and new beginnings. It can also be fraught with worries surrounding uncertainty about the future and what lies ahead.
Here are some thoughts on navigating the worries ahead…
We have a tendency to spend most of our time either worrying about the past and what has just happened, or worrying about the future and what’s about to happen.
This can be exacerbated as we approach a crossroad, or opportunity for new beginnings such as with a new year. We’d be fairly willing to bet that those worries aren’t going to be entirely solved over the Christmas period, so here are some tips on managing them…
- Identify the worry. What is it I am worrying about. Write it/them down.
- What can you do about the worry/ies now? Brainstorm options.
- Implement what you can do about the worry/ies now
- What worries will have to wait? Establish what worries can wait to be solved and put the away for an occasion when it is more appropriate to be thinking about them.
- Is there a solution to my worries? Much of the time, there is no solution to our worries. They just come. Our minds are problem solving machines and they like to be finding solutions to our every thought. The promising thing is, once you know this, the power falls in your hands to choose to do something about it.
The worries are renting a space in your head for free. Give yourself permission to enjoy the moments happening around you, plan a time when you will again attend to the worry. Each time your mind wanders back to it, remind yourself that you have an appointment booked with that worry but that it’s not today. Today is about chocolate, movies, watching your children open their gifts, eating too much, walking in the cold winter air. Today is not about worry.